THINKING DEAD !
A hospital room. There's a man who just died in bed. His wife is waiting by bed. Doctors say: Even if a person dies, the cells in a part of his brain live for a while and the person continues to think. “The doctors, who are inspired by this newly discovered knowledge, have developed a device. The electrodes connected to the head of the dead transmit electrical activity in the brain to a computer screen, and the computer reflects the thoughts of the deceased on the screen.
The wife of the dead and a doctor are looking at the blank of computer screen. At that moment, a text appears on the screen. “Put my watch on my arm!“
His wife, looking at the doctor, says: He is already dead! What is he going to do watch ?
Woken up in horror, Ahmet brought this dream to thetheraphy session next day. He didn't know who these people were in his dream because he couldn't see their faces because he was fluffy.
The first thing to be done in the dream analysis was to clarify what was to be found and to find out who they were. To do this, it was necessary to start with the leading actor of the dream, in other word with the “ thinking dead “
Therapist: How old is the man lying in bed?
Client: I don't know.
Therapist: Do you think he is a 90-years-old man?
Client: No, not.
Therapist: A 10-year-old?
Client: Of course not.
Therapist: 80 ?, 70 ?, 60? ...
Client: I think he's in his 50s.
(After waiting a while)
Therapist: Who is the man who died at 50 and had his watch?
No more inquiries were needed. After a few seconds of this therapist's question, he was furious. When he realized that this dead man was his own father.
He had gone 15 years ago, his father died that day. His father, who had operated because of an illness in his brain, did not want to take his watch off with a puerility before the surgery. During his operation, he remembered that her mother who sat in front of the door told her the story of the watch she was holding. His astonishment increased once more, because he had completely forgotten about it, and never thought for 15 years.
The story of the watch was as follows: When his father came from the military, he bought this watch, which was very expensive compared to his time, giving all his money. He looks at the watch that came out of the watchmaker's shop and says ; Yes,friend. I started life with you. And my life will end with you!
(It is important for a person in Anatolia to be brought to life, to do his military service to start life).
This watch was a part of Ahmet's father, an organ, an extension of himself. He would always tell how much quality this watch was when he entered the shower, and did not see a mechanic's face although he had been using it for years (self object function).
His father's watch, which couldn't get up from the operating table, had really stopped that day. A few days after the funeral the family that realizes this situation, but the mystical meaning of the event, even though the clock is automatic (working with a mechanism sensitive to movement) and not stopped because it does not be used Ahmet knows that people do not want to disrupt the information they installed in the mind because he hid this information. However, in the following days, he shook the watchseveral times, put it on his arm, but could not operate it.
In the following days of his visits to condolences belongings of his father were shared among himself, his siblings, his mother and several of his relatives. With this watch, Ahmet took a few pieces of things and put them in a small box, and he taped the box tightly, hiding it somewhere in the most remote corner of the house. This box he kept wasn't open for 15 years!
Until the day he saw this dream.
When he went home after leaving the theraphy session, his first job was to open the box and look at the watch.
He was shocked! Because this watch was much smaller than it had in childhood. However, in his mind there was a great and majestic watch.
Ahmet's childhood was not very good with his father. There was always a fight and a conflict between them. His father was an angry and tough man.He had memories of violence. He was so frightened by his father that he symbolized the heyula on his mind by means of the watch and realized during the therapy sessions that he was hiding this heyula in a box and hiding it in the most remote corner of the house.
But after this dream, things became a little more complicated. Because the dead wanted his watch.
After the theraphy session when he came home and lay down on the couch looking at the watch the first idea was to take the watch and bury it in a grave. There was an intense desire for this. However, he had to consult his therapist first and then go on a thousand kilometers trip to the city where his father's grave was, that is to his hometown.
His therapist said he shouldn't be too quick to bury his watch. This advice, however, caused him to be angry with his therapist. In the sessions he reacted to his therapist like ; the man wants his watch and I have to give it!. The therapist, on the one hand, was trying to draw Ahmet to the truth not to bury the clock, stressing that it was a dream, while inviting him to explore the material in his soul about why his mind needed such a dream.
His therapist advised him to bring the time with him whenever he could. When he enters the session, he grabs the watch and holds for his anger. How much meaning did you put into this shitty watch? Don't you see that it bothers me ?
The therapist said, Am I the one who put meaning in this watch or you ? She was trying to figure out what Ahmet had imposed on him.
During the free association, The Lord of the Rings and “Tarkan Altın Kılıç” films came to his mind. The common feature of these films was that the man with the ring or the sword had the power to rule the whole world. However, this power, on the one hand, brings the curse, jinxes and foes follows the heroes of the film
That's exactly the meaning of the watch what Ahmet’s unconscious the basic cycle of his life was the reason for his first visit to therapy. When he caught a success and happiness in his life, he found something that would sabotage himself . In psychoanalysis, he was so familiar with the situation called castration that he noticed that it was not a coincidence that even the words of his favorite song had told him about it. (Neslihan: "Well, don't laugh,when you laughed, you cried then )
When studying deeply in the following sessions, Ahmet realized that he felt a sense of guilt for all the material and spiritual opportunities he possessed in his life because he was much more than his father had. I mean, he crossed his father. What's more, there was a connection between all these facilities and the watch, just like the ring of power symbol in the lordof the rings. This connection was due to an unconscious belief that the power it had was due to this time of his father. He believed that as long as the magic object that belonged to his father was in him, his castration would continue. He thought that when he delivered the watch to his real owner, his father, he would get over the negative feelings and guilt.
Again one day while he was thinking about all these, he felt himself like a squeeze when he saw a painting of his own while mixing his childhood pictures. The picture is 3 years old, at home naked as he walks ,on the his father ‘s arm he had that watch. Ahmet who read a lot of book in psychology so far, tought in his mind that If Freud was alive Freud, he could not have described the “öedipal conflict” better than this dream
The author's note: Vamık Volkan, who reminds him of a dead person in the theory of object relations, named the connection object . This watch is also a connection object. However, from the perspective of the castration anxiety that the client created, I called this watch the OBJECT OF CASTRATION. There is no such concept in the literature. The ring in the Lord of the Rings, the swords in the film Tarkan, and the hundreds of films, stories and tale themes are always the same. The power of having the object and the subsequent curse. Undoubtedly, this theme is a reflection of a feeling in the collective subconscious of human beings. In this context, I hope that the concept of Castration Object “will enter the literature as a nice term that explains this phenomenon.(Mustafa Gödeş )
Another question in Ahmet's mind was why he had such a dream after 15 years . In fact, the answer to this question was hidden in another dream that he had seen a few months ago. For the first time, Ahmet had seen his father in a dream. The interesting thing was that in this first dream, he could not see his father's face, only that he knew he had a father from his clothes. The thing even more interesting was that she noticed that these clothes were clothes that her father wore at the age of 34 while he was mixing albums. No doubt this was a mystery in the number 34. The secret was that his therapist, Mustafa, is now 34 years old.
Object relations theorists interpret this dream as “change of internal object representations . In other words, the bad father figure in Ahmet's mind began to change with the figure of a good father at the end of his 2-year analysis. Here the good dad was therapist . In the face of the anger and guilt transfers he had developed against his therapist, the therapist's neutral and humanistic attitudes had contributed significantly to changing patterns in his mind. Because he never shows these reactions to his real father. One reason he insisted that the therapist would not bury the watch immediately was to aim at developing the capacity to integrate good and bad object representations. If he buried the clock immediately, he would have divided the good and the evil, which would contribute to the tendency to perceive the world and people from a single pole (division mechanism).
However, Ahmet's desire to get rid of the watch was still available. While all of this was being talked about, another topic that Ahmet had brought to a session a year ago came to his therapist's mind. Ahmet had a habit he called throwing disease ’. Whenever he got something new, he certainly felt the need to throw away the old one, he did not keep any material that was not being used he got rid of them immediately. When he came home with a new shirt, he would take the old one to the street and put it on near the trash, even in the middle of the night. The unconscious motivation of this trait, which he could never make sense of, began to emerge. Because it was the watch he wanted to throw away. However, the feeling was so deep that he had to get rid of many things for 15 years until they reached him. He realized that he hadn't thrown anything at home sincethhe last time that he saw the watch in his dream, he couldn't hide his astonishment about the enormity of the human brain.
In the next session, the therapist decided to apply the double chair technique used in emotion-focused therapy. When the counselee also accepted, he placed an empty chair in front of him and asked him to imagine his father sitting there and to tell his father about his feelings about the watch.
Client: I have no feelings and thoughts. There is nothing to say. I just want to give this watch
Therapist: Go to the seat where your father is sitting now and become your father and look at his son's face.
(After waiting a while, the counselor looks at the therapist's face.)
Look at your son's face. Yes, your son wants to return his watch. What will you say.
Ahmet, in the role of his father and himself taking care of himself from his father's eye, perhaps lived through his two-year analysis of emotion and tears that he never experienced. After he had settled down, he started talking about his father's role.
The client (in the role of father): My son, I am very embarrassed to you. I never wanted to upset you.. I couldn't leave you anything. Let me keep this watch as a memory and remember me. You're the one who deserves the most. Please don't hurt me
The double chair dialogue, which continued in this way, caused the session to last longer than half an hour, but there was a lot of emotion. At the end of the session, Ahmet said that his willingness to throw the watch had declined considerably, but he hadn't decided yet. His therapist said that after this point, he had the decision and could do what he wanted.
After 1 month, when Ahmet went to his hometown, he felt his heart coming out while he was entering the cemetery. The watch was in his pocket and he was going to make a decision. On the one hand he wanted to hand over the watch to the owner, while not wanting to lose the most important memory from his father. He's never been here for 15 years! When he came to his father's grave it was as if he woke up from a deep nightmare. Very quickly he felt the reality. It was as if for the first time he realized his father was dead. Yes, he was dead, and he didn't have the time and all. However, to control his feelings, he took the watch out of his pocket and put it on the tombstone. After watching this scene for about half an hour, he thought it was pointless. He took the watch and put it back in his pocket, leaving a kiss on the tombstone.
After this incident, Ahmet continued his analysis for a while. His father transfer towards his therapist was studied for a while. Although his father was an angry man, he realized that he was not as bad as him. he had feelings of love and longing for his father. It was as if the spirit of both came to peace.
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